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Issue #145

Driving Beyond Convenience: The Real Cost of Commitment

I started college after high school in 1984. Tuition at IUPUI was $45 per credit hour, and after my first semester I wasn’t sure how I would pay for the second.

During my senior year of high school and the summer after graduation, I had worked as a print boy and a drafter/detailer, earning $3.15 an hour—and I thought I was rich! But with gas averaging $1.20 a gallon (over a third of my hourly wage), saving enough for full-time college was a struggle. I wasn't working during that first semester, so as it drew to a close, I was selling off personal items just to scrounge up another $900 for spring classes.

That's when I received a call from the company where I had worked over the summer. They offered me a huge bump to $3.85 per hour plus—and this was the life-changer—they offered to cover my tuition. Indiana didn’t even have a lottery in 1984, but I felt like I’d just won the jackpot.

For years, I worked full-time and took night classes. Working in New Castle, Indiana, and commuting an hour along I-70 to Indianapolis made for long, exhausting days. When work or life got overwhelming, I’d take a semester off or stick to taking just one class at a time while logging 55 hours a week at work.

By 2003—nearly 20 years later—I was a project designer in the precast concrete industry, taking classes through Purdue’s other regional campuses. Yet, I hadn’t even completed an associate degree.

Then an accelerated adult learning program promised a bachelor’s degree in 18 months with one night of class per week. I signed up immediately, adding extra liberal arts courses to cover what my engineering background didn't. In an accelerated setup, a semester’s content was packed into six weeks, and the attendance policy was ironclad: miss more than one class out of six, and you lost your money and your progress.

That winter, my resolve was tested.

I was working 50 to 55 hours a week, attending a four-hour class every Thursday, and raising three young children with my wife. On December 7th, my father-in-law passed away.

The funeral was scheduled for Thursday, December 11th, in Marion, Ohio. My mandatory class that same evening was three hours away in Marion, Indiana.

I refused to compromise on either front. Family always comes first—second only to my faith in Jesus. I spent the day supporting my family, honoring my father-in-law, and fulfilling every duty at home. Then, as late afternoon hit, I got behind the wheel and drove three hours across state lines to make it to class on time.

There is a vital distinction in leadership between commitment and convenience:

• Convenience does what is easy when circumstances are favorable.
• Commitment does what is necessary when circumstances are hard.

Too often, people sacrifice what is most important for what is immediate. Or worse, they sacrifice long-term purpose for short-term comfort. Doing whatever it takes isn't about neglecting your core priorities; it's about holding fast to your top values while refusing to let inconvenience break your promise to finish what you started.

To maintain true commitment without burning out or sacrificing what matters most, high-impact leaders must apply three rules when pressure mounts:

1. Protect the Non-Negotiables First: Faith, family, and core integrity aren't up for negotiation. When conflict arises, secure those first—no excuses.
2. Eliminate the Middle Ground of Excuses: Hardship makes quitting feel reasonable. Recognize when "I can't" is actually just "it's inconvenient."
3. Pay the Transient Price: The grueling drive, the late night, or the uncomfortable conversation is usually temporary, but the cost of breaking a commitment lasts a long time.

Real leadership isn't about avoiding the hard miles; it's about choosing which miles are worth driving.

What core values do you hold non-negotiable when life threatens to derail your schedule—and where in your current commitments are you relying on convenience rather than real resolve?

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ACT Reflection A — Apply: How does this show up in my life right now? Identify one situation, relationship, or mindset where this message applies. Small awareness creates meaningful change. ​C — Change: What is one thing you will do differently after reading this? A shift in perspective, a new habit, or a simple decision can turn insight into action. ​T — Teach: Who could benefit from this lesson? Share it through a conversation, an example you set, or encouragement you offer. The best lessons grow stronger when passed on.

See you next week!